When I started this blog last year, I also decided to explore social media. Although I’m very introverted and had never had any interest in it before, I thought it might be helpful to have a location where I could interact with readers outside of the blog itself. So this spring, I joined Facebook for the first time and created a public page. I imagined this page becoming a space where readers could ask me questions and comment on posts, and where I could in turn ask readers for feedback, get ideas for future posts, share photos and ideas that didn’t make it into full blog posts, and share links to other sites I found around the Internet.
But I was never really enthusiastic about the idea. I had long avoided Facebook and I felt almost embarrassed to admit that I was now using it. People I scarcely knew started sending me friend requests and, while I felt happy to add someone who I genuinely cared about, I felt bad saying no to the others. And I didn’t really know what to post on my page. I found it hard enough to come up with ideas for blog posts and the time to write them, let alone think of shorter posts for Facebook and find time to update my page. I thought of sharing updates about my current writing projects, but works-in-progress for a writer really aren’t that interesting. If I was a visual artist, I could show you photos of my work developing, but since I’m a writer, what would I share? Screen shots of Microsoft Word documents? Daily word counts? How many adverbs I deleted today? If I was an established writer who went on book tours or taught classes, I could post updates on those things and let readers know when I would be in a certain location, but I’m not yet an established writer. And I certainly did not want to bombard readers with updates on every little aspect of my daily life.
I tried following the Facebook pages of some other writers and bloggers who I admire, but I just couldn’t get interested enough to even remember to log in to Facebook regularly, let alone actually interact with anyone on their pages. It just felt like a lot of little updates about a lot of little things that I didn’t really care about (much the same way I feel about Twitter as well, based on the few times I’ve checked it out). Maybe there are some interesting conversations going on in social media, but at this point I feel that I just don’t have the time, energy, or interest to search them out.
Maybe I’m just not that social.
I deleted my Facebook page and my personal account this weekend, and it felt like a relief. Now I can stop worrying about what I should be posting and I can stop feeling bad about not posting enough and not having enough people “liking” my page.
For the few readers who did take the time to press that “like” button, thank you very much. While I’m not ruling out the possibility of future experiments with social media, I will not be joining Facebook or any other site again until I have a much clearer idea of how I want to use that space and what I want to get out of it. But I still want to hear from you! Let me know that you’re here by leaving a comment or sending me a message privately. How do you want to interact and connect with me?